As a coach working with people going through life's transitions, career changes crop up often and along with that some people then experience imposter syndrome. Here is a slightly more in depth blog about imposter syndrome: how it affects us, why and when it occurs and how *N.L.P. can be a BIG help! * see my earlier blog on what N.L.P. is What is it and how can it affect us? Imposter syndrome can affect all of us at some point in our life. It happens when we are faced with a

A very short blog just before Christmas to wish all of you a very happy and relaxing time over the Christmas/festive period if you are celebrating. If not, I hope that the bank holidays give you a chance to relax and take stock a little. I'm happily sharing my top tips (again) for you! My favourite 5 top tips for the season: Your love for someone is not based on the amount of money you paid for the gift. Allow yourself to eat and drink whatever you want. Yes really! There ar

I'd like to share some of my absolute favourite people, talks, website, posts and podcasts that I turn to often and frequently share with clients. In the true spirit of 'none of us is as wise as all of us' I'll happily share these wise people! Amy Cuddy - Wow! I can't even begin to say how many times I have turned to Amy Cuddy and her TED talk on how posture and standing up straight, with intention and power (even if you don't feel it) has the most remarkable effect on us. It

A short explanation post about the Reticular Activating System (R.A.S.) My work in N.L.P. frequently comes across this rather specific system and my clients have found it very useful. Many have had real 'Aha!' moments with this and others have, over time, been able to put principles into practice and found it has lasting effects. Amazing! So what is the Reticular Activating System and how does it affect you? Image via Stock Vector The reticulated what? Reticular Activating Sy

A look back at some of the posts from this year which show just how much can change and equally, how much can stay the same, in a year. It began with some January cheer Image courtesy of the Royal Academy Five year old Cressida certainly brought a smile to my face with her delightful robin painting. I also talked about embracing distraction if going for a challenge was too much at that point. It could have come in the form of something creative or physical or just looking a d

Young people leaving home? Feeling a bit adrift? Sad? Lost? Anxious? This blog is for you! September has swung around again, with a speed unlike any other year it seems and with it the prospect of many young people leaving home and creating the so called 'empty nest' . Although it is a commonly used phrase, I'm not sure if I like it that much, but I use it for convenience and mainly so people recognise it readily! As Ronna Benjamin wrote in a blog back in 2013: 'it conno

A blog inspired by James Clear's quote from his book 'Atomic Habits' 'The more you let a single belief define you, the less capable you are when life challenges you....when you cling too tightly to one identity you become brittle. Lose that one thing and you lose yourself.' James Clear. Atomic Habits: Chapter 12 Well that's quite something then isn't it? It certainly fits into the transition coaching work that I do and would explain why it may be very hard to move from one st

This blog is for you if you are just starting out or perhaps considering a change of career later on in life. Actually it could be relevant for you anywhere in your career. Below are two ideas about how to create or define a career path. But.... a blog is a blog is a blog. If after trying out one ,or both, of the below, you'd rather speak to someone in person then do get in touch! If you are at stage of critically thinking about your career and it is filling you with dread

I thought it would be a good idea to have a few FAQ on the event Leaving Well which is happening soon - 5th or 12th December 2020. What is it all about? I've designed this short session, full of impact around leaving the old year, 2020 behind. Let's face it there have been challenges! My belief is that if you 'leave well' you don't end up carrying around toxic baggage for years afterwards. Whatever it is you are leaving be it job, the old year, a relationship, a house, leave

It really was not that long ago when, if someone said said to me, 'Relax and breathe' it would trigger quite the opposite reaction. I'd feel my shoulders hunching and my fists clenching. I even punched something once (a cushion, don't worry, nothing living) because it made me feel so ANGRY. I couldn't stand that soothing sickly voice telling me to calm the heck down. Oh how things change! I thought it might be helpful as we head into lockdown #2 to share the very simplest of

This blog is for anyone who is feeling a bit out of kilter and just not feeling quite right in themselves for some unknown reason. It explains how our values 'hold us up' You can read this or head over to Facebook to hear my thoughts on a FB live session. You know when you reflect and say: 'I'm lucky, I have my friends, my family, my health, a roof over my head and I'm not putting my life at risk by escaping a war zone, but you know, I still feel a bit meh.' What's all that

The announcement of easing of lock down restrictions has brought up all sorts of things! ...including some pent up feelings

A leopard can’t change its spots… or can it? My latest (revamped!) blog looks at a well-known phrase, often recited, frequently to oneself. This leopard is a female. There are, I believe, male leopards out there too examining their spots. Every morning, when the leopard woke up, she examined her spots. Whilst doing this she also looked at each one and told herself what it meant. It went something like this: “This one tells me I am very good at planning things. This fuzzy spo