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Important message!

If you're going through a time of change, this message is for you!

By change, I mean:

- Starting a weight loss programme

- Moving house

- Re-evaluating your life

- Starting a new job or role at work

- Decluttering your space

- Beginning a fitness regimen

During these transitions, it's crucial to be kind to yourself and mindful of the language you use when talking to yourself (we all do it).

The Harm of Self-Criticism

Avoid harsh criticism of yourself—better yet, avoid any criticism of yourself. Why? Because in my 40 years of experience as a teacher and coach, I have NEVER seen a shred of evidence that unkindness and harsh words are motivators. Shouting at someone who is striving to achieve something is never helpful.

Phrases like:

- "You're rubbish!"

- "You can't do this."

- "You look ridiculous/ugly/overweight/awful/weird."

These kinds of comments are not only unhelpful but also detrimental to your progress and self-esteem.

Why Kindness Matters

Kindness and positive reinforcement are far more effective in motivating and sustaining change. When you replace negative self-talk with encouraging words, you create a supportive environment for yourself to grow and succeed.

What You Can Do

Be mindful: Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. When you catch negative thoughts, pause and reframe them.

Replace harsh criticisms with positive affirmations. For example, instead of saying, "I can't do this," try, "I am capable and I will give it my best effort."

Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. Recognise that everyone makes mistakes and that's okay.

Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge your progress, no matter how small. Celebrate each step forward to keep yourself motivated.

By being kind to yourself and avoiding harmful self-talk, you set the stage for positive change and personal growth.

If you want to know more about how to manage and overcome negative self-talk, keep an eye out for my next blog.



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